--- title: People Pleasing and How to Stop | We Are Delphi description: People pleasing and how to stop, one-to-one coaching with our therapists to help you say what you're really thinking and improve your relationships. £125 per session. image: https://wearedelphi.co/hubfs/Delphi%20Logo.png --- [![We Are Delphi](https://wearedelphi.co/hubfs/delphi-logo.png)](https://wearedelphi.co) - [Services](https://wearedelphi.co/services) Public Speaking [An Actor's Guide to Public Speaking](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/an-actors-guide-to-public-speaking) [The Art of Storytelling](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching-the-art-of-storytelling) [Leadership Storytelling](https://wearedelphi.co/leadership-storytelling) [Free Public Speaking MOT](https://wearedelphi.co/free-public-speaking-mot) Career [Career Change](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/career-contentment) [Momentum Career Course](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/momentum-career-course) [Career Newsletter](https://wearedelphi.co/newsletter-career) [Interview Coaching](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/interviews) Communication [Conflict & Communication](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/conflict-and-communication) Emotional Support [Therapy](https://wearedelphi.co/therapy) [Career Counselling](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/career-counselling) Confidence [Confidence for Women](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/confidence-for-women) [Imposter Syndrome 101](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/imposter-syndrome-101-confidence) Creative [Producing Theatre](https://wearedelphi.co/consultant/producing-theatre) - About Us [Meet the Coaches](https://wearedelphi.co/about-us) [Meet the Therapists](https://wearedelphi.co/meet-the-therapists) - [Blog](https://wearedelphi.co/blog) [Book a Complimentary Intro Call](https://meet.boomerangapp.com/bex.wearedelphi.co) Services› [Public Speaking: Actor's Guide](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/an-actors-guide-to-public-speaking) [Public Speaking: Art of Storytelling](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching-the-art-of-storytelling) [Public Speaking: Free MOT](https://wearedelphi.co/free-public-speaking-mot) [Career: Career Change](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/career-contentment) [Career: Momentum Career Course](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/momentum-career-course) [Career: Newsletter](https://wearedelphi.co/newsletter-career) [Career: Interview Coaching](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/interviews) [Communication: Conflict & Communication](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/conflict-and-communication) [Emotional Support: Therapy](https://wearedelphi.co/therapy) [Emotional Support: Career Counselling](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/career-counselling) [Confidence: Confidence for Women](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/confidence-for-women) [Confidence: Imposter Syndrome 101](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/imposter-syndrome-101-confidence) [Creative: Producing Theatre](https://wearedelphi.co/consultant/producing-theatre) About Us› [Meet the Coaches](https://wearedelphi.co/about-us) [Meet the Therapists](https://wearedelphi.co/meet-the-therapists) [Blog](https://wearedelphi.co/blog) [Book a Complimentary Intro Call](https://meet.boomerangapp.com/bex.wearedelphi.co) Therapy & Coaching · UK Wide # People Pleasing *and How to Stop.* People pleasing is slowly killing your relationship. It's usually a learned response you've been using to protect yourself since childhood. One-to-one coaching with our therapists can help you say what you're really thinking, and improve your relationships along the way. - Understand where the pattern actually comes from - Learn to say what you really think, without the guilt - Protect your relationships, not just other people's feelings - One to one sessions, tailored to your situation [Book a Free Intro Call](https://meet.boomerangapp.com/bex.wearedelphi.co) ![We Are Delphi Head Therapist and People Pleasing Coach Rebecca](https://wearedelphi.co/hubfs/Selfie%20resize.webp) ★★★★★ **5.0 Rating** Google & Bark Reviews ## Why you *people please.* People pleasing rarely starts as a choice. It usually starts as a strategy, a way of staying safe, liked, or needed, often built long before you had the words for it. The problem is that the strategy outlives its usefulness. What once kept you safe as a child can quietly cost you your voice, your energy, and your closest relationships as an adult. ## What starts *to change.* - Noticing the pattern in the moment, not just after - Saying no without over-explaining or apologising - Telling people what you actually think, calmly - Trusting that a relationship can hold your honesty ## You might also *need this.* If people pleasing shows up most as difficult conversations you keep avoiding, [conflict and communication coaching](https://wearedelphi.co/coaching/conflict-and-communication) can help you find the words. If the pattern feels older or deeper than any one conversation, [therapy](https://wearedelphi.co/therapy) may be the better starting point. ### Who this *is for.* - People who say yes when they mean no - People who feel responsible for how everyone else feels - People ready to be honest, even when it feels uncomfortable at first ![Rebecca, Head Therapist at We Are Delphi](https://wearedelphi.co/hubfs/Selfie%20resize.webp) Your Head Therapist ## Hi. I am Rebecca. I am an Oxford graduate and trained psychotherapist. I have spent years helping clients understand the patterns they learned early, including people pleasing, and build something more honest in their place. We Are Delphi is a collective. If I am not the right fit, I will say so and point you to a therapist who is. [Book a Free Intro Call](https://meet.boomerangapp.com/bex.wearedelphi.co) [Meet the rest of the therapists here.](https://wearedelphi.co/meet-the-therapists) Client Reviews ## What clients say ★★★★★ 5.0 · 110 reviews on Google and Bark ★★★★★ > "I was feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stuck, and caught in a cycle of procrastination and perfectionism when I found Bex on Bark. She has been coaching me for about six months now, and in that time, she has gently yet effectively challenged my thinking, always in a positive and constructive way. Knowing my love for reading, she has shared a wealth of relevant materials and book recommendations, which I’ve found incredibly valuable. > > Bex’s coaching style is gentle yet thought-provoking, with a consistent focus on self-compassion and setting achievable goals. I’ve never felt judged or silly, no matter what I’ve shared. Beyond being a coach, Bex has been an unwavering accountability partner—the cornerstone of the progress I’ve made so far and continue to build upon. > > I’m truly grateful for her guidance and wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone seeking meaningful support and a fresh perspective." Marie Cooper Google Review · 5 Stars ★★★★★ > "Bex is a fantastic coach. She creates the space for you to reflect and assess how you work and manage challenging situations, giving you the time to acknowledge what you are doing well, reflect on where you would like to hone your skills, in turn, increasing confidence levels. She suggests tools that are genuinely helpful and impactful. > > Bex has given me a spring in my step again and reinforcing validation and having faith in myself. I'd highly recommend Bex." 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