If we’re feeling stuck and uninspired, we often tell ourselves that we’re waiting for the “right” answer - “with a bit more time, I’ll start to feel more sure.”

In these situations we confuse having the “right” answer with an ambiguous feeling of certainty.

So what is that feeling? In my experience it’s a moment when our gut, logic, and “the universe” are all in complete agreement. And our strategy to crate this is to wait for “alignment” to fall out of the sky.

In my experience that rarely happens and when it doesn’t, that’s when people start to overthink, ruminate, get anxious.

We tend to get into our heads and start believing that “more thinking equals more certainty” and subsequently more safety.

The thing is, more often than not, we’re not scared of making the wrong decision, we fear it not being perfectly right. There’s a difference. between these two things.

The confusion between “this might not work” and “this might not be flawless” is what keeps people frozen or stuck in their current situation. And often, keeps them thinking over and over again about the same situation, increasing their anxiety but resulting in nothing really changing.

Missing opportunities entirely: windows close while we overanalyse. The “not now” becomes “too late.”

Erosion of confidence: every postponed choice teaches your brain that you can’t trust yourself.

Energy drain: half-decisions occupy full mental bandwidth.

Diminished momentum: the longer you wait, the heavier the next move feels.

Myth of the perfect moment: there’s never a time that feels entirely “ready.” Waiting doesn’t make it often make it easier just costlier.

Most people realise this only in hindsight. The career move that would’ve been easier two years ago. The relationship conversation that curdled from delay. The idea that’s now someone else’s product. Indecision feels like preservation, but it’s actually a slow emptying of your cup!

When you’re stuck in deliberation, pause and check: are you actually missing information, or are you looping through the same data trying to feel safe?

If it’s the first, then it’s possible to ask better questions (you can work with a coach or a therapist) to do this.

For example, you could ask:

If it’s the second, you may need to build your skills to handle emotions (a therapist can help with this which is one of the reasons I’m qualified as both).

Every decision changes our trajectory but most don’t change it so drastically we’ll regret it for the rest of our lives but we get so focussed on ensuring the perfect outcome at a fixed point in time that we act as if every decision is make or break.

Instead of focussing completely on the outcome, it can help to take note of all that we’ll learn along the way. We’ll pivot, repair, learn. Unexpected and wonderful things will happen along the way. We don’t need a perfect decision, we need a good enough one, made while the opportunities still exists and we still can make decisions.

That’s what I help people build: clarity frameworks that make decisions faster, cleaner, and lighter without losing depth or integrity.

If you’ve been hovering over a decision, whether that’s with you career, direction, opportunity, and your brain’s stuck in “what if” mode, let’s see if we can do something about that.

In a 20-minute Clarity Call, we’ll:

No pressure, no hard sell. Just clarity, confidence, and forward motion.

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Until next time,

Rebecca

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